RECONNECTING TO OUR
As a neurodivergent human when I'm affected by something or upset it can trigger my threat responses Fight Fright Freeze and Fawn, creating internalised pressures that can trigger my PDA and OCD brain and derail my Neurodivergent Flow.
When this happens the pressures multiply become all-consuming and overwhelm my whole body.
It can be a bit tricky for my beautiful super–focussed neurodivergent mind to turn its attention away from forcing solutions blocking my peace, inspired new ideas and living a life that reflects who I truly am back to my Innate Flow; the things I'd naturally be doing.
Neurodivergent minds are problem-solving machines and I can become frustrated and overwhelmed, unable to solve an inner disturbance when my mind finds it a bit tricky to work out how I feel (Alexithymia) and process a lot of information (executive function differences).
As a neurodivergent human with a neurodivergent family, time for myself is a luxury I mostly do not have. Because of this, I try to hurry things up and force answers that can cause more confusion and unhappiness.
There's ONE THING I can do that can quickly and quietly shift my inner storm and return to my Innate Flow (present to what I can do), even just a little bit, to ease my OCD's or C-PTSD's (Complex Post Traumatic Stress) looped thoughts.
I can take the pressure off and give my Interoception intelligence (understanding my thoughts and feelings) more time to work it out later while being open to inspired new ideas that might come my way in the meantime.
When everything is just 'TOO MUCH', or when times are tough and I don't have a lot of time, when in the heat of the moment, about to burst, bawl bash or say something, I shouldn't, I pause and instead, I say;
I say THANK YOU as many times I need to myself in my own mind to whomever, whatever, whichever is crushing or pushing me over the edge,
Saying THANK YOU quickly informs my mind I will learn something valuable from the experience when I do work through it.
Saying THANK YOU shifts and reduces my big thoughts and feelings to produce less negative and at times destructive reactions.
When I practice saying THANK YOU amidst a painful moment, a psychological distressed state (aka meltdown), I'm always grateful later on when it passes. When my mind is calmer and giving it time to work out what is truly upsetting me I can better know what is actually the root cause and what loving and kind action I can take, if any, for myself and/or my child.
Saying one simple thing like, THANK YOU reminds my brain understandings and solutions are waiting on the horizon.
All will be okay.
Thank you, Zanderrs, for your inspiration to say thank you!