• an anonymous roarheart

OUT OF THEIR WAY





My child's mind is a brilliant creative engine who courageously informed me that when I constantly encourage or compliment them on activities they shut down because of the pressure they feel when I do that.

I thought that's what my child needed to come up with and continue with their ideas and activities.

That's called positive parenting right?

Perhaps not when my child internalises it as pressure to perform and tells me that's why they are gaming a lot more to get away from me: the pressure.

It hurt hearing it and the truth is I'm still doing what mainstream learning did to my child and I.


The push push for more and more where it's never enough.

And for who???


So I stopped.

And my child's creativity and internal motivation returned immediately!

It's amazing how brilliantly my child creates when I'm out of the way by listening, respecting and trusting them.

We're both happier and more peaceful.


BECAUSE THE PRESSURE IS NOW OFF BOTH OF US!!




#Autism #neurodivergence #brilliantmind #internalmotivation #PDA #removingpressure #trustingmychild #childleadlearning #autididact #naturallearning

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