THERE'S TWO SIDES – ONE IS INVISIBLE
My child's soap sculpture
Made in the shower
Without formal training
Learnt this from a Youtuber
And oh my gosh
What I see in this sculpture?
Two faces!
I see a soap face
And it looks ... Ugly?
Scary?
Angry?
The way my child looks
When their brain is struggling
When told, 'No' 'Not now'
AND/OR
Too much activity
Too much noise
Too much light
Too much touching
Too much movement
Too many things to do at once
Too much inspiration
Too many ideas
Too many people talking
Too many demands
Too many requests
Too many expectations
...
Others see the upset face
I see the beautiful silhouette
Beside the soap
A perfect child
With a tricky mind
That struggles with things
Most minds do not
Other minds subconsciously work all that shit out naturally
Easily
But not our minds
They are different
Our body language means different
I see a beautiful perfect child
I see a face
Communicating to me
They need help
Not discipline
Not scolding
Not dominating
Not forcing
Why?
Because my child's brain has no defence against the things
It struggles to do
That most brains do easily
My child needs assistance to work out;
'What do I need to be okay?
Quiet
Alone time
One person talking at one time
One activity at a time
A list of the ideas they have in their head
A list of things they'd like to do
Help to do something
Demands removed
Expectations removed
Requests removed
Food
Rest
Water
A shower
A cuddle
Someone to listen
Someone to embrace their difficulties
Their disabilities
It is how we are
And it's okay
We'll get through this tricky moment
TOGETHER!
If you like me to xxx
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